So, that lady who got the bad perm that fried her hair turns out to have been disingenuous? :shocked Nicolas Cage face:

For reals, people: Stop going on the warpath for everyday things you see on TikTok.

If you have never been to the salon and personally had a bad experience, why are you leaving 1-star reviews?

If you don’t live in the area and you’re not really planning on getting your hair done, why are you making appointments at the salon just to ruin their business?

When I worked customer service, an oldhead gave me the advice that has always stayed in my head: All customers are liars, bitches, and thieves.

"But I’m a great customer!"–From your perspective, yeah. Sure. But maybe the customer service person dealing with you might not share that sentiment. They might honestly think you’re a bitch just because you keep blah-blah-blah’ing while they’re on a tight schedule with management tracking their every customer interaction. You don’t have to be a liar or a thief to be seen as a bitch by someone forced to deal with you as part of their job.

Trauma dumping on a customer service person? Bitch behavior.

And this lady? She publicly lied, which resulted in a "violent" Internet mob destroying a hair salon and causing a bunch of people to lose their money. While she laughed about it, gleeful at all the attention she was receiving.

And now that she’s facing a backlash for her own behavior?

"Please stop harassing me and my family. I’m scared for my children."–My dude, you didn’t give a fuck about the safety of the employees and their families when you were smearing their reputation all over the Internet to a bunch of people that seem to have a lot of time on their hands and a lot of formless rage they are ready and willing to use to destroy a company at the behest of someone they perceive as a victim.

You are not the victim in this situation.

You had a bad hair experience. Whoop whoop. You could have told it as a funny "Oh no, look what happened to my hair!" story that would have gathered attention you could have used to introduce yourself to the public WITHOUT naming the hair stylist and the salon. But because you named the hair stylist and the salon, you got someone fired, you’ve damaged the reputation of a business in a way that probably has legal consequences for you, and you’ve ruined your own reputation.

Who wants to buy the music and support someone that has shown they’re happy to be a shitty person on main? You might sing beautifully or play instruments wonderfully, I don’t know. I don’t care. All I know about you is that you ruined the life and career of another person for clout.

It sucks.

Was the stylist good at giving perms? No. Did she tell you the perm might come out looking like dogshit because of the things you’d previously done to your hair? Yes. Did it come out looking like dogshit? Yeah. What did you expect?

There were two ways this could have gone: Good perm, bad perm. And the stylist warned you there was a big chance it was going to be a bad perm. BECAUSE OF THE THINGS YOU’D PREVIOUSLY DONE YOURSELF TO YOUR HAIR.

To purposefully set about to destroy the life and financial security of another person WHILE CRYING ABOUT HOW HARD YOUR LIFE IS AS A SINGLE PARENT WITH A LOW PAYING JOB? Get the fuck outta here.

The stylist should have immediately apologized and the salon should have immediately given a refund. But to intentionally set about destroying a whole business? WHILE gleefully laughing about it? WHILE blasting the stylist’s legal name all over the place to give an Internet mob a target? WHILE continuing to bully and lie about the stylist to keep her from being able to get another job?

Ugh.

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The Way of the Househusband 01 at Amazon

I’ve been reading this very convoluted Chinese webnovel that involves baby switching, national secrets, rebirth, transmigration, genital mutilation, purposefully spreading venereal diseases, and stupid long-term revenge plans.

Seriously: Two dudes have gotten their penises cut off so far. These chicks might not be done.

Let me describe the story:

It begins with Xiaoyue transmigrating into the body of the "real" daughter that was just beaten to death by her "real" parents at the behest of the "fake" daughter Qingqing. And they’ve beaten her because she wasn’t going along with their idea of just handing over her college entrance paperwork and her fiance to Qingqing. And the reason why they even brought her back was because Qingqing failed to get into college and Xiaoyue was the top scorer, so they wanted to take her college acceptance paperwork for Qingqing to use.

And once Xiaoyue takes over the body, she fights back by leaving the family and returning to the house of her adopted aunt and uncle. She can’t get her college acceptance paperwork back because her "real" dad is a powerful member of the military who knows a lot of people, including ones in the education bureau.

And originally, the OG tried to go to the education bureau and get her college acceptance returned to her, but she was dragged back to the house and beaten with sticks until she suffered mental disability. And then the second time, days later, when they beat her they killed her without knowing it, and that’s when the transmigrator from the modern world took over.

And Xiaoyue sets about getting revenge for the OG, which involves revealing that Qingqing is having sexual relations with Xiaoyue’s fiance Shubin (? whatever). And she does it by running out into the street and calling for help from the neighbors because "Shubin is attacking my sister! He’s beating her! She keeps calling ‘No no!’ and he’s on top of her!" And she kicks open the bedroom door while inviting the neighbors to come in and help her sister.

And everyone sees Qingqing and Shubin fucking.

And it’s like the 1980s, so it’s a big deal. And there’s lots of shame and recriminations AND QINGQING LEARNS NOTHING.

Seriously: Throughout the entire story she is regularly caught cheating. She’s just fucking every guy she comes across, and she does it in in such a way that it just constantly ruins peoples’ lives while she’s just like "What? I’m just a little girl!"

Whole families are falling apart around her, and she just keeps going around fucking different men and people keep catching her.

Like, she and her "brother"–the son of the family that raised her–regularly cuddle and kiss and hang out naked together. And the parents find out, and they’re like "Cut it out. He’s married to a woman from a Very Powerful Family. You’re going to destroy his life!" yet she continues to keep getting caught naked with him. And finally his wife catches them and things blow up and he ends up divorced and in prison for 10 years because his wife turns him over to the investigation bureau and he’d done some corrupt stuff.

But by then she’s been found by her "real" family, so she doesn’t give a fuck about her old family, because the new family is more powerful and can be more helpful to her. So she has no problem being like "Pshaw. I let him touch my boobs and have sex with me a few times when I was 16. I paid back all my debts to him. Who cares if his life is destroyed and he goes to prison because I pissed off his wife? Not my problem."

And the crazy thing is that she’s a reborn person. She was reborn to when she was 12 years old, so she’s known since then that they’re not her real family, which is why she has no problem seducing the 5 sons and cuddling inappropriately with the father. Because she has big plans to ruin Xiaoyue’s "perfect" life, who in the "original" timeline was brought back to the family, went to college, married Shubin, and had a fairy tale life where Shubin became the governor and Xiaoyue was the first lady.

Like, she got reborn, so she immediately made contact with her family so that she could arrange for the evil grandma to torture Xiaoyue and cause Xiaoyue misery. So basically, because of her rebirth and her machinations, the OG Xiaoyue was beaten to death, which caused the entrance of the transmigrator, which directly led to Qingqing’s happy life being ruined.

All she had to do was be cool, and she would have had a glorious life!

Because it turns out that the baby switching was all part of a plot by Qingqing’s supposedly long dead grandfather, who was hiding from the government because his family committed treason and were all executed, yet he managed to escape with his young son and daughter, who grew up to be Qingqing’s mother. He took them to the countryside, married a village woman as cover, and left his children with her after he pretended to die. Then he moved to another city and married into a rich family as a second husband so that he could gather information on them that he later used to destroy their family.

Because he’s got long-term plans to take down every family he sees as having been involved with the downfall of his family. And throughout the story, it’s revealed that he’s probably taken out 4 or 5 families. And it’s like, yeah, they did corrupt shit and they deserved punishment from the government. They all seem like they got what they deserved. But he’s the one gathering all the evidence and turning them in and he’s a dangerous creep, so he’s in no way any kind of good guy. Plus there were several instances of his people planting evidence that got families arrested.

Anyways, his plan was to switch his granddaughter–Qingqing–with her fake family, and then her family would raise Xiaoyue. BUT there was a THIRD baby, one that belonged to the fake family, that the dad strangled to death before accepting Qingqing, because the mom had cheated on him and he knew that wasn’t his baby. So the third family thought their baby had been stillborn… but that baby was Xiaoyue!

And the whole plan was to have the fake family raise Qingqing. And she would be close enough that they would be able to monitor her growth, and they would interact with her a bit and ensure she was onboard with their plans. Then later, the third family would find out that there had been a baby switching and miraculously, their baby–Qingqing–was still alive. So they would come and bring her into their lives, which would then give an opening for the supposedly dead grandfather to do his plans.

There was a jade necklace that they for some reason left behind even though they thought the baby was stillborn. I don’t know why they would leave a necklace. But it would be the proof that Qingqing was their baby.

But for some reason, in the OG timeline that reborn Qingqing came from, she never met her grandfather. She stayed in her fake family while OG Xiaoyue was brought back, she went to college and married Shubin, she joined the military dance troupe and starred in a TV drama and became a bit famous, and Shubin became a politician and eventually became the provincial governor. And originally, Qingqing was eventually taken back to her real family where her grandma treated her horribly and she eventually married a butcher and was forced to give birth even though she had a heart condition, and she had children before she left her husband and she slept with a bunch of men and ended up with an unnamed deadly venereal disease and she died in a slum and was reborn to get her revenge on Xiaoyue.

Which she did. Because OG Xiaoyue died in the reborn timeline.

Yet the transmigrated Xiaoyue had read the book where Qingqing was the heroine. And in the book, Qingqing married the hero Shubin and they went to college and she starred in a few TV dramas and became a celebrity, and she slept with a bunch of men and every single one of them helped her in various ways that resulted in her having a great life where she had triplets and a super happy ending. Everyone around Qingqing had miserable endings, but her ending was happy, and there was never any mention of her grandfather or his schemes or anything like that, which is why Xiaoyue didn’t know about them until she started changing things once she transmigrated in.

And the grandfather was suffering from cancer, and he was rushing to finish all his revenge plans before he died, so maybe in the book he died in the background without ever appearing? Or maybe he did make it overseas for treatment and he was just lurking in the background smoothing the way for her.

Because transmigrator Xiaoyue thinking about the book didn’t really like the story, and she thought that there were several inconsistencies that were never explained. Everyone is bending over backward to help Qingqing succeed, and it’s never explained why.

Qingqing and Shubin have a happy ending. And things would happen resulting in various people being arrested or taking the blame for things that Qingqing or Shubin has done, but Qingqing is entirely focused on herself and her good life.

So Xiaoyue knows how the story is supposed to go, and she refuses to let herself be used as a stepping stone. She immediately starts overthrowing Qingqing’s good life, including getting her kicked out of college for stealing someone else’s entrance exam scores. And she reveals to everyone that Qingqing and Shubin are having sex even though Shubin is supposed to be her fiance. And she reveals to the fake brother’s wife that the fake brother and Qingqing have a suspicious relationship, one that in the book allowed Qingqing to use her fake brother’s position in the government for her own benefit, benefits that are now gone.

And Xiaoyue meets and marries the powerful military officer Fu Liye who canonically remained a bachelor and regularly helped Qingqing whenever she needed it, and whose family "mysteriously" all got in trouble and ended up imprisoned or executed by the state. And the Fu family happens to be one of the families on the grandfather’s revenge list.

There’s a lot happening in the novel and I don’t think I’m really enjoying reading it, but I want to know how it ends. There’s just a few things that are really disturbing me or pissing me off and I don’t know how I feel about the author.

Xiaoyue is a modern woman transmigrated into the 1980s. She uses her future knowledge to start some businesses and make some money, which is fine and all. BUT there’s a woman that gets gang raped by 5 men, and Xiaoyue talks her down from committing suicide, and gets her home where she ends up talking to her and they plan how the woman can get revenge on her rapists.

By giving them STDs.

These are 5 men that have a reputation for going around partying all the time and having "messy" lifestyles. So there’s a good chance that they will probably assault other women. Yet Xiaoyue’s idea is to arrange for a woman with an unnamed venereal disease to sleep with them all and get them sick. And at the same time, though the family refuses to report the assault, they get the 5 different families to pay the woman a bunch of money, which she then uses to go into business with Xiaoyue. And once the families know what their sons have done… they have some assigned to different cities and other ones go abroad.

To spread STDs.

During the 1980s.

An unnamed venereal disease that takes a long while to start showing symptoms.

Like, did Xiaoyue just help spread AIDS across China and the world?!?

And later, the woman is not handling the memory of her assault well, so she goes to one of the men and pretends to forgive him. And she tricks him into going to a guesthouse to have sex with her, during which she brings out the scissors she’s stashed and she chops off his penis.

So does she have HIV now?

Syphilis? Warts? What is the disease they deliberately exposed those men to? How can Xiaoyue think she’s a good person after helping spread diseases across China? WTF?

It just really bothers me. She’s a modern person. She should know better.

And like, there’s a sense of smugness about her. She’s constantly looking around and noticing things about the people around her, and she has information from the original story that other people don’t have, and she just comes across as arrogant.

I don’t think I like Xiaoyue.

She’s the heroine of the story, but like Qingqing as the heroine of the story Xiaoyue read, neither one of them is good people.

It’s an ESH situation. Everyone sucks here.

The novel is called "80s: The Real Daughter Turned Evil Tore Up the Green Tea and Kicked the Scumbag Husband."

I don’t really recommend it to anyone. I just had to get some thoughts off my chest before I blew up with reader rage. That is all.

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Panoply at Amazon

So, there’s a lady on TikTok having a bad time right now because she shared her "My husband cheated on me with my friend" story. She expected people to be on her side and feed her a bunch of sympathy, but as the details were shared… she comes across as a shitty person. And her husband should be in prison.

I’m not saying that all youth pastors are sexual predators, but it is a job that is very attractive to sexual predators. (Same with school teachers, priests, school janitorial staff, babysitters, nursing, doctors, etc.)

It puts them in a position of authority over people in the age range that most excites them, and they are able to use that authority to pick through the kids in their power to find the ones most vulnerable to abuse. And then they abuse them. It’s disgusting. And criminal.

And the lady doesn’t seem to understand that no, it wasn’t "her friend cheating with her husband," it was her husband grooming a teenager and abusing that teenager for years into adulthood.

And she herself was a tool he used to help facilitate the grooming.

She was "the wife," who would be there to show that "No, he’s not getting you alone to manipulate you or anything. His wife is here. He would never do anything inappropriate with his wife here. It’s okay for him to massage your shoulders or have what might possibly be deemed inappropriate conversations with you. His wife is here." And she would invite the girl over to bake cookies or pack snack bags for youth group camping trips or hanging out during COVID…

That there was never a criminal court case, but that the church paid the girl a settlement fee and he was fired from his job and was required to sign an NDA… Dude was guilty af.

He should not be a youth pastor, and it is good that he was fired. Hopefully he’s not able to find another job that brings him into close contact with vulnerable people.

He is a sexual predator.

And that she likens his grooming of a child with alcohol addiction? Fuck no.

Being a sexual predator is not an addiction. It is not something that can in any way or form be excused.

It’s a reason to seek psychiatric counseling and therapy and all that good stuff, but it is not something someone is chemically drawn to do. You have not committed so much sexual assault that your body now needs it to live.

Sexual assault is something he wants to do.

It’s probably the reason he chose to be a youth pastor. So that he could be up close with the youth.

His job allowed him to hunt his chosen prey. And if he had in any way been a good person? He would not have become a youth pastor. He would have chosen a profession and lifestyle that did not bring him into contact with young people.

He’s a very gross dude. And the only reason he would feel regret about it? Is because he got caught.

He faced some consequences and lost his job. And now his wife (or ex-wife now) is taking to social media to complain that "My friend cheated with my husband." And she doesn’t accept that her "friend" is actually a victim of her husband. And that she was one of the tools he kept handy in his grooming toolbox.

She may have once been one of his victims–her timeline of them getting together when she was 15 and marrying 10 years later has me wondering how old he was when she was 15–but at this point she is simply his apologist. She needs divorce and therapy and hopefully they don’t have any kids together because yeesh.

Anyways, everyone on TikTok is giving her the business, and she’s desperately trying to defend herself and that her (ex?) husband isn’t a groomer and an abuser. It’s just that her "friend" cheated with her husband and is a terrible person for doing it.

Hm.

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Small Gods at Amazon

I’m dealing with what seems to be a fucking genius mouse.

It keeps going into the humanitarian trap and eating the bait without ever tripping the door. And I don’t know how it’s doing it.

Every other mouse has gone in, stepped onto the trip plate, and boom. A free ride to living outside. Where rodents belong.

But this one guy? Naw.

At this point I feel like all I’m doing is feeding the mouse.

It’s frustrating and infuriating and I’m reaching the point where the mouse has to die. Like, I’d prefer to throw it outside, but this guy. This guy is not taking the hint. And it’s getting bolder and bolder with running around and taunting me.

Disgusting little monster.

It doesn’t know that my next step is to buy one of those executioner traps that release a deadly electrical shock.

I don’t want to kill the little guy, but it has to go.

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